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My 77yr old aunt came to visit us over 2 years ago. And has not left. My father thought it would be better, and so did I, that she stay here to figure things out. 2 months of her at my dad's and they were at each other.
She has not once, contributed to our household expenses. I have tried talking to her and I get dismissed. Her finances are private. She has no plans for anything. And we are sinking financially. I can't afford to eat whatever we want and buy expensive healthier foods. But she comes and goes and blows money every week purchasing ridiculous items. Over priced. (Food mostly). It's irritating. I just met her 3 years ago.
Isn't there some sort of help we can get for letting her stay with us? She can't afford to get her own place. And no other family to take her, she refuses to speak to her daughter. But she is completely using us, and I can't take it anymore.
I know nothing about any of this stuff and I really need help!

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If your aunt is able to come and go as she pleases, then she is more than capable of living on her own. You say she can't afford to, but how do you know, if she doesn't discuss her finances with you? If needed, your aunt can apply for Medicaid, and then she can move into some government subsidized housing for the elderly. She has long overstayed her welcome, and it's time to give her a one month notice to find her own place and get out.
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Who owns the house. If you, then you need to sit down with her and say that the cost of living has increased and you can no longer support her living there. She needs to find a place of her own. If Dads house then he and you need to sit her down and say time to go. If you don't, you will end up being her caregiver. By her being on her own, if she needs care the State can step in.

I would have a list of low income apartments. HUD subsidizes apartments and charges 30% of a persons monthly income. Same with HUD vouchers, the person pays 30% of their rent. Contact Office Of Aging and see if they have a booklet if their services. They should have a Senior bus for shopping and appts. I may help her get all set up but not be her "go to person"
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