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I (25/F) have been in possession of my grandmothers (79/F) car since I was 17. The car is paid off, and is in her name. She gave it to me when I was 17, and then when I turned 19-20 I moved the insurance into my name and drove it for several years. I do not have access to the title. About 2 years ago, I went to a job where I rode with my sibling who also worked there to work everyday and the car didn’t get driven for those 2 years. I since have gotten a new vehicle that’s newer after my husband got a new car, and we stopped paying for the registration and insurance on my grandmothers car.
Fast forward to this last August, and my grandmothers doctor finally ruled that due to her health she needed 24/7 care. She lives over 35 minutes from me. None of our family was able to take on that responsibility due to space and finances, so she went to a rehab nursing home. During that process, her landlord/neighbor who helped her day to day offered to take on the guardianship role during her transfer to the nursing facility. I’ve asked several times what needed to be done with my grandmothers vehicle, as this is her only technical asset, and I have not heard anything about what to do. The neighbor keeps saying to return the car to her property, but the car is now unable to be driven. She messaged me yesterday and said “I need you to bring the car home I'm still dealing with ssi and SS I was told she just can't sign it over to you. I have to send all the ssi money back that she got for the last 5 months.”
This seems unusual to me because I was told that because my grandmother is on medicaid, her assets cannot be sold as it could disqualify her from medicaid. I am uneducated on this topic and due to other circumstances and past theft issues in the past from the neighbor, I have reason to believe she could be trying to just sell the car because she spent my grandmothers money. However, I’m unsure of that and I really could use some insight to this topic. My mom and aunt and uncle refuse to have anything to do with my grandmother, and I’m unsure of what to do.
For reference, I am located in KY.
Thank you.

Hire a tow truck to return the car to your grandmother's previous home. (I know it's an expense but since she lent the car to you, it is your responsibility to return it.) Go directly there so you can be there when it arrives. As others have suggested, bring a friend or family member with you to take pictures of you returning the car and keys. Keep screenshots of this with the date. Keep all the registration and insurance paperwork from when you paid, in case there's any issue in the future about that. Then you won't have to deal with it any more.
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You need to deliver the keys to the guardian. I would have a witness with you that is not related to you or a friend to document the act of giving over the keys in person to the guardian. If you think your grandmother is being taken advantage of, contact your county rep for aging. FWIW, some old people say that someone has stolen from them, but nothing was taken. Unless you have proof other than your grandmother's word that the guardian stole something, I would take it with a grain of salt. You can always contact an elder care attorney as well for advice. My mother thought she signed something over to me, but when we were cleaning her house we found the document, 20 years old, sitting by her chair, never mailed. I'm sorry other relatives are not helping, and I hope things get better for you.
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First of all, the landlord is legally responsible for your grandmother and her finances. So unless they were paying for the nursing home from some mystery source of income since August, they are owed the SSI checks that your grandmother has received in her bank account. That money is owed to the nursing home, not the guardian/landlord.

If your grandmother is on SSI (not SSD which is social security when a senior retires from working) or she is low-income enough, she is on Medicaid. It is Medicaid who has been paying for her in the nursing home since last August. Her checks are OWED to the nursing home. Any accumulated money in her bank account must be paid to the nursing home. This is called a Medicaid Spend-Down. If it is not paid, then there will be a Medicaid penalty period where they will not pay the nursing home until the full amount paid out (by SSI) is recovered and paid to the nursing home.

Medicaid does not care about an old car that doesn't run. I'm assuming she doesn't have any real estate because you mention a landlord, so she has no assets to speak of other than what's in her bank account.

If the nursing home is making a fuss about an old car than doesn't even run, they can speak to her guardian/former landlord who has her legal authority to make her decisions. It has nothing to do with you or your family. If the guardian has been spending her SSI checks since August, she's going to be in a world of trouble. That's got nothing to do with you. If the guardian wants to come and get the old car still in your grandmother's name that doesn't run, they can make arrangements to do so. You are not responsible for that or for any of it.
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The car should be returned anyway it can be.
Your other option would be to buy the car for Fair Market Value, the money goes to your grandmother or her Guardian.
You can file with the Sec. Of State for a Lost Title. If grandma is cognizant she can do this if she does not know where the title is. If she is not cognizant then her POA or Guardian can do this. (I hope the neighbor/caregiver is legal POA or Legal Guardian)
At that point you can sell the car, as is or get it repaired and sell it.
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I would question the guardian thing. It cost thousands of dollars to get guardianship. In my nephews case, when my brother became guardian I and other brother had to sign paperwork saying we were OK with it.

Paying back 5 months of SS and SSI sounds weird to me too. If she went to a LTC facility and had no money, her SS would go towards her care. What did the landlord do with her SS that it has to be paid back?

I would consult with a lawyer on what you should do. I don't really see what it matters where the car is. Medicaid may not be worried about a car that is old and undriveable and not worth anything. Not worth enough money for GMs care anyway.
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JustAnon Nov 20, 2025
In my state guardianship costs $150.
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The car goes now to the guardian, who will have to list it as an asset. It is still titled in your grandmother's name. You will simply say to any who ask how you got it that your grandmother gave it to you to use and you used it between the years of blah______and blah______. That it then died and has sat in your drive. You notify the guardian of this by mail, and tell the guardian it is not in driving condition and she will need to arrange towing if she, as now administrator of the estate, wants it back to add to assets (which of course it really is NOT (an asset).

If you wish to be completely upfront about all of this then I would find out who the executor of estate is firstly (wills are filed or an administrator appointed to one who dies intestate will be appointed) so all this can be worked out, and it should be legally done. The administrator or executor has to file probate which is a public document.
You can also await LEGAL NOTIFICATION of when and where to deliver the car and work from there.

We are essentially talking a piece of junk no one wants here. So I wouldn't worry it and I would not give it to anyone without proof they are administrator or executor. Medicaid may be making claims on this car. It may have been listed in applications and filings.

Do know you can run this by your DMV office as well to see what they recommend. But you aren't in any trouble. This car, if an asset and if for sale can be sold off your front lawn by the admin if there is one. They will have the title, I am certain, as they went through grandmother's things. Perhaps they mistakenly believe it's worth something.
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Geaton777 Nov 19, 2025
To clarify, only the titled car owner, the PoA (if given this authority to buy/sell cars) or the legal guardian can apply for a duplicate title at the DMV once they have some essential info from the car: VIN, license plate number, etc. Been there, done that when my Mom hid her car title so I couldn't sell it.

The OP just tells them the location of the car and gives them the keys. No need to pay for towing of giving up any extra information since that is TMI. It's the guardian's headache now.
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Tell the landlord/guardian that the car doesn't run and you don't have any way to get it to them. You can drive the keys to them (all sets) and make sure to get proof that you handed the keys over to them (take a pic or video). Give them the location of the car. That's all you can do. If the car is in a garage on someone's property, the guardian will need permission and access.

FYI your Grandma never gave you the car, she loaned it to you. If she gifted it to you she would have signed over the title. Therefore you were never the legal owner of that car, just to be clear.
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Return the car, by towing if needed. It’s an asset of grandma and shouldn’t be in your possession
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BurntCaregiver Nov 19, 2025
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It's not up to the OP to get the car over to the grandmother's guardian. It's the guardian's responsibility to make that happen if it needs to.
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What kind of a car is it, year/make/model?
Is it actually worth very much?
A junk yard will probably give her $300 for it.
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Since the car is in your grandmother's name, it counts as her asset, and its value matters for her Medicaid status. The easiest step is probably to have the car towed and returned to the guardian's property, as she asked.
If you're worried about the guardian or the Medicaid rules, it would be best to talk to a lawyer in Kentucky who handles elder law or legal aid to protect your grandmother.
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olddude Nov 19, 2025
She should have bought the car outright from grandma years ago. Now the whole situation is a big mess.
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