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I’m looking at respite through hospice for my husband. I can no longer physically take care of him. I’m torn.

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If 5 days would not be enough, ask if Hospice can help you find a place permanently. Where I live, there are no Hospice homes. Respite means a Nursing Home.
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Foamergirl 10 hours ago
Yes me too. Since I worked in long term care 14 years I hate to do it.
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In-home hospice may still be too much for you... I agree with Grandma1954 to consider LTC in a good facility, one that accepts Medicaid and offers on-site hospice. My MIL was in LTC for 7 yrs on Medicaid in an excellent faith-based facility. She "graduated" into their hospice and had a very peaceful and respectful passing.

You need to take care of yourself. I'm assuming your husband would not want you to hollow yourself out caring for him to the end. You will still need to live on, and you need to make yourself a priority. May you receive peace in your heart as you do this.
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Talk to the Hospice Nurse or Social Worker and they can arrange Respite.
But if you can no longer physically take care of him you are needing something long term not just respite care.
The hospice Social Worker can help you in your search for some long term care at a facility that they have a relationship with.
The other option would be to begin looking to hire caregivers either privately or through an agency that will help you.
If your husband is a Veteran the Hospice Social Worker can help arrange help through the VA. Most Hospice have a liaison that can help navigate the VA.
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Foamergirl 10 hours ago
Thank you for your words.

i asked for hospice social work assistance but it has not been received; VA is $14k in my area. I’ve had private pay caregivers for years. That’s why I feel so desperate.
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That's one of the many perks of bringing hospice on board with a loved one as they do offer 5 day respite care every 90 days, so by all means take advantage of that, so you can spend that time resting and rejuvenating your soul, so you're better prepared for the journey ahead with your dear husband.
My late husband was at our local hospice home twice and while there received top notch care and the people that worked there were fabulous and very caring.
And even if you decide to leave him at the hospice home after the 5 days(which Medicare covers 100%) you can, but of course then you'll have to pay out of pocket to keep him there, but again the care is great and it'll be worth every penny.
Don't forget that you matter too in this equation, and you have to take care of yourself.
God bless you.
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I am so sorry you are enduring such pain. You must be going through so much. A break is completely understandable and necessary. I understand that hospice also has people you can talk things out with, people who are knowledgeable about this process and what caregivers endure. Perhaps consider finding solace and help in this way?

I am saying a prayer for you right now. I pray for peace, strength, comfort and rest for you and for your loved one.
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Foamergirl 10 hours ago
Thank you for your prayers!
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I hope you can find the right resources for respite care. Please don't feel guilty. We can only do so much before we need the help of others.
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Foamergirl 10 hours ago
Thank you!
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