Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Other than that, my walking was pretty good today. I didn't feel I was limping as bad. Trying not to jinx myself by hoping too much though. Got a a cute summer tee and a new blow dry brush. They do need to come up with stores for women between the ages of 50 through 75 I think. I mean I'm not ready for elastic pants yet but won't wear sweats that say juicy on the butt either. A nice in between would be great!
"Our fatigue is often caused not by work,
but by worry and resentment."
My Uncle is too ill to go anywhere anymore but I really Love the letter idea.
That had crossed my mind .I just hadn't figured out the words yet but now thanks to you I think I may have some.
I really appreciate you mentioning that.
Thank you so much~
Have a good night ahead~
I love the letter idea! I have very sweet letters from various people that I will never get rid of.
The other suggestion I have would be to write him a heartfelt letter about all the things you love about him, and all the good memories you have of him. Then, you read it to him. Let him know while he still can hear you. Bring tissues.
Seeing you, will be the best gift. I’m sorry that your uncle is in pain.
Thank you to everyone~
Thank you for all your kind and caring ideas on what I can get for my Uncle.
Now I have some stress off my shoulders and I'll be able to sleep better tonight.
I hope all of you have a good night~
Thank you all so much~
I'm so sorry for the loss of your 2 Uncle's.
The skylight frame sounds neat and I appreciate you mentioning it.
I'll ask my Aunt and see what she thinks about it,if it would make my Uncle sad.
Spending time with him is the best gift,your'e right.
I appreciate your kind suggestions~
Take care and have a good night~
Flowers are right up his alley but he doesn't need any because my Aunt has them planted all over .
My Uncle has a beautiful rose garden that my Aunt is taking care of now too,but flowers were a great idea.
I appreciate all your suggestions~Thanks for the hugs & caring like you do~
A book stand or a lap tray are great ideas and so is the ereader but he's got a Kindle already and at this point I don't think he's using it much.
He just doesn't have any energy because he's having so much trouble breathing and in so much pain.
My Uncle,has Pulmanary Fibrosis but
Thanks for your suggestions,I really appreciate it~
Thinking of you and your family. I hope he can be kept free of pain and discomfort.
Most of all just you being there and caring is probably what he needs.
It was in bad taste to mention assisted suicide in a joking way. I apologize.
Yes, I've been anxious and depressed but not to that degree.
Lu, I'm sorry about your uncle. Prayers for both of you.
I appreciate all your thoughts and ideas.
A cup with 2 handles is a great idea .... I don't know how well it would go over with him but I may do it anyway.
Last Sunday,he had a coffee mug in front of him filled with water but the mug was full because it's too heavy.(I'm sure).
I was trying to put a photograph album together for him but then my Aunt said that when he looks at old pictures ,it makes him sad but
I have given him little framed pictures thru the years though and he mustv'e liked them because he displayed them on his desk.
All your ideas were very thoughtful.
Thanks alot~
That's CrAzY to charge $15 bucks for a chocolate eclair.....wow!
Your'e right,the most important thing is time spent with him.
He can't have any salt anymore so that's made it harder taking him foods but last Sunday,I took him a big tomato and he seemed pleased.
I took him some fresh peas too,which he used to love,but they didn't go over very good.
I'd love to take him something sweet,but being a retired dentist,he's never been a sugar eater.
That was a really good idea though and I appreciate it.
Thank you ~
So sorry that this time for you, family, and your Uncle is a sad time.
Maybe a specialty tea.
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And a special cup with two handles, if he would accept it.
My Uncle would not accept a wedge pillow and just set it aside, even though he and his wife needed to be elevated in bed in order to breathe better.
A package of seeds, flowers called "Forget Me Not", in a little planter pot.
Specialty foods wrapped in cellophane, in a basket that you wrap yourself, foods that he can still eat and likes.
More family photos in frames for the wall.
My Uncle loved a tiny room diffuser making it easier for him to breathe, but everyone else hated it and kept trying to remove it. Or, more expensive, a Hepa filter, a machine to clear the air. The fan noise can help block other noises, relax you, and help you sleep.
So many ideas, but the important thing is, that it will come from his favorite niece!
What about some treat that is decadent and a big splurge? Bring one for everyone as his gift of having a treat together on his special day. Time spent with him is truly the greatest gift you can give imo.
I am sorry that you are facing losing your uncle, may The Lord give you guidance and peace for this difficult time.
We have a place that sells chocolate eclairs that are beyond scrumptious but, they cost 15 bucks each, so they are reserved for a special splurge occasion.
I like both of your ideas and your'e right,it might take his mind (and my Aunt's) off his situation for awhile.
Next week,he's having a birthday( #88) and also were going to celebrate Father's Day( early ).
so I'll need to get 2 gifts for him.
The problem is,I just don't know what to get him.
I took a book over to show him when I was visiting,but he was too weak to turn a page or even hold the book.
He's on oxygen and in alot of pain....not eating much,etc.
So I'm stuck.
If anyone has any ideas I would really appreciate it.
Thank you so much~
Yeah, they pop up in the ‘similar questions’ section and people click on them, answer them and they come back to life even though some posts are several years old.
So..........Switzerland might be nice to move to. Low crime, nice climate. I remember when we did our Europe trip years ago I loved Switzerland. Maybe I'll check in with DH and see what he thinks. :)
They gotta have better doctors there me thinks. Assisted suicide is legal there. Yep, ................
In the winter it's too cold to go out walking. Then comes spring and it thaws and it's too wet and slippery. Then late spring and there are the forest fires and it's too smoky. After that it's bug season and you don't want to chewed up by June bugs or bitten by mosquitos and blackflies. Autumn brings a break and for me the nicest time to walk, but you have to watch out for the bears who are hungry. Of course when I was younger a lot of this didn't bother me so much.
Barb, saw the photos of your area! Bad! Stay safe. News reporter equated it to smoking many packs of cigarettes.